Comments on: Dating Musicians: It May Be Even Harder Than You Think (Especially If You’ve Got A Mouth)

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By: Jerrud

Jerrud — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 05:38:50 +0000

As a musician myself, I can say with relative certainty that she should tell the truth. Be nice about it for sure, but lying doesn’t help him at all. If you need proof that this work’s numerous musicians have dated and even married each other, while working together as musicians. Any musician will tell you that when your working with someone you have to be able to give your honest opinion. So if those celebrity music couples can do it surely these two can. In fact, my guitar player/singer is also dating our other guitar player and they give each other honest opinions all the time and it works just fine.

By: sicksteanein

sicksteanein — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 09:01:49 +0000

@dog door: Whoa, who said anything about art here? I thought we were talking about music? :)

By: revmatty

revmatty — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:12:21 +0000

@Al Shipley: In a former life I was an amateur musician. My girlfriends generally could not stand my music, and most of them only made half hearted attempts to be nice about it. Didn’t stop me, because it’s something I loved doing (and still do on the rare occasion that I have time). If you’re going to restrict your dating pool to people who love what you create in your hobby (or if you manage to make a living as a musician: your job) then that’s awfully limiting.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 07:00:02 +0000

This relationship is not going to last.

It's pretty hard to date someone when you don't respect their work. (Or maybe that's just me?) She's going to go crazy eventually.

By: NoOneCaresAboutYourFuckingBlog

NoOneCaresAboutYourFuckingBlog — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 06:27:57 +0000

Two chords is one too many.

By: Al Shipley

Al Shipley — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 06:10:41 +0000

This cuts both ways; if you’re a musician, should you care about what your s.o. thinks of your music? Personally, I think it’d be nice if they can find at least a couple songs to enjoy, but you can’t really over-analyze what other people want to hear, especially people you know, when you’re trying to create your own music. Plus, having them not give a damn about your music would take away the cheesy “groupie” connotations of the relationship.

By: okiedoke

okiedoke — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 05:32:28 +0000

Buy him some drums.

By: dog door

dog door — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 05:13:29 +0000

@righteousmaelstrom: i love the hold steady, but this is still made me lol.

By: dog door

dog door — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 05:12:44 +0000

@janine: she doesn't need to offer unsolicitied criticism of his band, of course, nobody said that. but assuming she's not full of shit and does know something about music, wouldn't when he asks her for her opinion, wouldn't that be a nice jump-off point for an honest discussion about art and what they each hope to get out of it? as opposed to just saying, yeah, yeah, cool, i like it, seems like everyone's having fun. nobody's telling her to be a hater.

By: Mick Kraut

Mick Kraut — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:58:12 +0000

Perhaps she would be more musically satisified if she started dating someone from Dream Theater on the side…

By: Poubelle

Poubelle — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:25:26 +0000

Why doesn't she put her fancy music degree to use and teach him a third chord?

Also, lighten up. I go to a school with a substantial music program, and have met plenty of music majors who don't except the same level of stucture you'd find in a classically written peice when some dude is stumming his guitar. Because, well, expecting that is ridiculous.

By: righteousmaelstrom

righteousmaelstrom — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:24:23 +0000

It looks like one of the dudes in The Hold Steady has a new girlfriend.

By: Rob Murphy

Rob Murphy — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:15:53 +0000

People. PEOPLE!

This is obviously a blind item. START GUESSING!

Weird Al Yankovic?

By: janine

janine — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:13:04 +0000

@dog door: Unsolicited criticism of someone's band has little to do with "growing" or "communicating." He's willing to play his crappy crap for others, so clearly he likes it or is at least confident in it. So it looks like it falls more into style than personal growth. She doesn't even need to like his band, from where I'm sitting. Yoko should start her own band. I'm not anti-criticism in the slightest (look at my comment history), but that's sort of lame.

All that said, why would anyone date a musician in the first place?

By: Dead Air ummm Dead Air

Dead Air ummm Dead Air — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:04:18 +0000

Well we can rule out Natalie Portman as the author of that letter.

If by original, we mean "weird and annoying."

By: RaptorAvatar

RaptorAvatar — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 03:44:04 +0000

DTMF. I’ve personally torpedoed things over less (sometimes not meaning to).

By: Ned Raggett

Ned Raggett — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 03:43:36 +0000

@NeverEnough: Or critics. (This might be self-defeating advice.)

By: NeverEnough

NeverEnough — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 03:38:36 +0000

Better advice: avoid dating musicians like the fucking plague.